Tonglen means “Giving and Taking” in Tibetan. It is a gentle practice where we visualize transforming negativity into light, releasing this light back out lovingly to the world around us. In the West, we might call the practice Ecstatic Prayer.

Tonglen practice involves transforming our own negativity first, followed by any darkness we perceive in our homes, neighborhoods, cities, and in the world.

Each session is as follows:
5:55-6:00pm: Arrival. Please arrive on time.
6:00-6:10pm: Greetings, Check-Ins. This helps everyone settle into the practice.
6:10-6:20: Introduction to the practice.
6:20-7:00pm: Tonglen Guided meditation.
7:00-7:15pm (optional): Group share, Q&A.

We offer an extra 10 minutes of introduction to the practice on the second Wednesday of each month.

The Practice:
To understand Tonglen, first visualize a cup of pristine water that you really want to keep clean. Perhaps you cover it with your hand to keep dust out–but somehow, at the end of the day, there’s a bug floating in it! This is how many of us are taught– to keep negativity as far away as possible. But the negativity around us affects us anyway!

Now visualize a pristine waterfall. Take that same cup with the bug in it and place it in the waterfall. The cup overflows with pristine water, and the cup is clean again. We can even fill the cup with mud, and in seconds, the pure water washes it clean, sending pristine water down the mountain for the communities below.

In Tonglen and Ecstatic Prayer, we connect with the waterfall. First clearing ourselves, then our homes, then our communities–transforming any negativity we see, and offering radiant, abundant love to the world around us.

It is a very uplifting, soothing practice and I hope you will join us!

Your host for this event is dream alchemist Benjamin Whitehurst, M.A., founder of the Durham-based Alchemical Dreamers’ Guild (DreamCircling.Com). Benjamin holds a Masters of Transpersonal Counseling Psychology from Naropa University along with certification in Integral Circling from the Integral Center in Boulder, Colorado.

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Notes & Disclaimers: This event does not involve psychotherapy or any other form of healing intent. Instead, the intent of this Tonglen & Ecstatic Prayer experience is educational and spiritual. Please be aware that Tonglen can be emotionally intense for some people–participate at your own risk. May this event be in service of the well-being of our community. This event is a professional offering organized through the Alchemical Dreamers’ Guild / Navigate Change, LLC.